Saturday, May 31, 2014

Deep Thoughts

I had a whole post written out. Was all set to hit publish and a weird wi-fi hiccup happened, and now it's lost.

Suffice it to say, a little girl called me fat the other day. She's five, at the most, one of Claire's classmates in her music class. In that high-pitched little girl voice, she asked me if I had a baby in my tummy.

Now maybe her mother hasn't taught her yet that it's not appropriate to ask if someone is expecting a baby. Or maybe she hasn't learned that making comments about other people's appearances is rude.

Either way, she said it, and I was taken aback. I mean, I am what I am, but
what bothered me more was that her mom didn't say anything to her. No immediate admonishment, no whisper about how such things might hurt someone's feelings. Maybe Mom didn't hear her, or was distracted by the toddler.

Still it's days later, and I'm still ruminating on it.

Then again, I had a different experience yesterday. We were walking to school and my friend and I were talking about our hair. As women tend to, we were complaining about it. (Too short, don't know how to style it, etc.)

This woman, stopped me, and basically said "Bitch, please, you have great hair..." Then she proceeded to tell me all the different things I might do to style it. Scrunch it with gel! Get a flatiron.

So, I guess the takeaway from this - I'm sort of fat, but I've got great hair.
Truth in advertising, I guess.

3 comments:

Fiona said...

First of all, the question was completely unwarranted and the kid is clearly crazy. Second, I've had a five-year-old ask me if I was my daughter's grandFATHER (as if grandmother wasn't bad enough). Phooey.

Sadaf Trimarchi said...

Oh lord. Kids have zero filterat that age.. Even at 7/8 range, which is where Mina is, the kids just blurt out anything. And they ask a lot of questions. Im walking around with a 7 month preggo belly and have been accosted by three diffrent hirls who rub without ssking, want to know all the details about the baby, etc.

Not to excuse the mom's reaction, but it is possible she may have said something to the child at a later moment. I know I've done that with mine. I've also made it a point of saying out loud that people come in an shapes and sizes and colors.

The color thing was a big one a few years back. And not in any judgemental way .. The kids will just point out . So and so has dark skin. So and so has medium skin. Etc.

You do have cute hair!

Jill Whitley said...

You are really, truly lovely. Fun fact: I didn't recognize you when we met because your photo was mostly hat, but my first thought was, "Wow! She has a really kind, happy face. And great hair!"