Mission Statement

We are a people who tell stories in one form or another.
After all isn't blogging just another way to gather around and tell those stories?

Motherhood is Painless is about finding the humor in the every day. In finding the happiness in those stories that we tell. What would happen if we *all* learned to laugh at ourselves? Maybe then the dark corners would recede a bit and we would all rejoice at the love we find there.

Monday, December 17, 2012

Mean Girls

When I was a kid, I was teased.
I was awkward - I wore glasses, had terrible teeth, and liked odd clothing.
So, naturally, some of the other kids picked on me. I won't go into specifics, it was so very long ago, and in the end, it doesn't matter. 

But, I've been thinking about it recently.

My sweet, funny, smart and perfect daughter was teased. 

Nothing bad - some of the girls in her class were picking on her lunch.
They told her that her turkey sandwich smelled funny. That her salami was yuck. So she did what any other five year old kid would do. She threw out the lunch I made for her, packed in princess zip lock baggies. She threw it out and snuck school lunches instead. (She can do that, I should note, because school lunch is 100% free in our school.) This might have gone on even longer, but one night, curled on the couch together at bedtime, she got very quiet. She whispered to me, "What is bullying, mama?" So we talked about it. I told her to tell me if it happened again.

And it did.

So I sent an email to her teacher. Mrs. B called me the next day, (on election day) and told me the school had a no-bullying policy. That she would speak to the kids when everyone was back in class. She reported back to me too - and I heard Claire's side of things. The three girls were asked to talk together, each got to say their piece, and it was resolved. They were also asked to stand in front of the class as an example of how bullying could be resolved.

And, most important, I am happy to report that no one has made a peep about Claire's lunch ever since.

1 comment:

Michele / akkasha said...

I am very proud of Claire & her teacher. It is great that they have such a strong policy on it. I hope that the girls are learning at a young age that bullying is wrong.

I was teased a lot in school. I was always called fat (even at some times when looking back I actually wasn't.) It is hard to fight against that when you are young. Though I do think it taught me how to be independent. It did hurt. It is amazing about those childhood memories and how they can still affect us.