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We are a people who tell stories in one form or another.
After all isn't blogging just another way to gather around and tell those stories?

Motherhood is Painless is about finding the humor in the every day. In finding the happiness in those stories that we tell. What would happen if we *all* learned to laugh at ourselves? Maybe then the dark corners would recede a bit and we would all rejoice at the love we find there.

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Winter Wonderland

Winter has come. Or rather, it will be here in a few days. Yet the days have been strangely warm. Fall is lingering, the trees are holding on to their leaves. But Christmas is just around the corner - decorations are hung, shining through the red and brown of the foliage.

We had snow, but back in October, wet slushy snow that took everyone by surprise.

Things in our house are different too - Ben hasn't slept through the night in ages. I can't remember when it started, but he wakes up, in the deepest darkest hours, screaming for someone to come, to comfort him, to hold him on the old battered couch in their room. In order to preserve Claire's sleep, we let it happen. Until it started happening earlier and earlier and for longer and longer. Dave spent whole nights, his long legs curled up, cradling the boy.

Now we're working on some other methods of soothing his fears - rubbing his back, telling him that he's our Big Strong Boy. And while the screaming has lessened, and we no longer have to rock him, he's still waking up and needing attention. It's straining. We are short with each other, with the kids. We're not well rested, and we're not performing our best. I'm tired of people asking me how I am, and telling them that things are bad, that we're all tired.

Tell me it ends, oh wise mamas of the interwebs, please?

4 comments:

Rebekah R. Jaunty said...

Whoooaaaa. I am neither mama nor wise, but my heart goes out to you and your Big Strong Boy.

One of my friends had a son with night terrors. I'm not sure how they handled it, but I remember how hard it was on the parents.

Michele / akkasha said...

Wish I had some great advice for you. It is hard.

Elanor has some of those times during the night. Though Paul is good about not getting her out of the crib. He will soothe her back to sleep. Trick is, we will have Will in our room. *sigh*

We also have the flip issue. We are way too willing to soothe Will to make sure he doesn't wake Elanor. So Paul has started putting him in the bed with us. Which means we are getting less sleep. Or at least I am not sleeping as well for fear of rolling over on the little guy!

I said to Paul that I really think we need to use the time I have off between Christmas & New Years to start having Will cry it out. I am sooo not looking forward to it. But it beats sleep dep!

I hope someone has some sage advice for you! It is hard to know what to do. I hope you all get some rest soon!

Jennifer said...

Mother of twins here!! It comes in spurts my dear...then it subsides...and then it comes again. Not sure why?? I hear it has something to do with milestones but I'm not buying it. What's worked for me...GOOD coffee, I got to bed earlier (like 9pm), and when they would get up I refuse to take them out of their beds...I knelt down by their bed and said something about shshsh time to go night night & re-tuck kisses and goodnight. Even if it meant doing it a dozen times until they got it. HANG IN THERE LOVE...this too shall pass :)

Anonymous said...

it does end! Unfortunately it ended at age 4 for my son and now he's the most reliable sleeper ever. But it does end and you cannot even remember it happened! In fact, I even miss his mid-morning visits to our bed a little bit.